Thursday, July 2, 2009

ENGLISH ASSIGNMENT 105

Is it women cheat guy more than guy do?


Women have their own power when comes to rule the world. As we can see now, women have their own right to have their own position and law. But do women have their own right to choose or to dumped a guy. As the world involve in the evolution, gender also undergo this situation much more than environment. We can see that women do all the job that men in the past time do like example, they earn and support the source of money for the family. They don’t even work as a housewives like the past time do. They are more prone busy with their own career and have to take care the family as well. From this point, we can conclude that women had taken over the man throne and the sexuality had changed. Not only that, women nowadays are most likely to involving in infidelity more than guys do. But why does this happening? Why do the women seeks another love affair instead to be the faithful to their partner. This had been questioning into my mind each time to see the women had cheated their partner and always change their partner from time to time. So we had to find out why it’s happening. From this topic , i do agree with "is it women cheat guy more than guy do?".

This situation was happening to be in the Maya life's. She involves infidelity even tough she had a good looking, well renowned, rich and much matured boyfriend. Why Maya cheat his partner??She knows that she is not single. She excited to having affairs with the new hunks that she met in the office or in the social party. She expected to be the faithful girlfriend for his boyfriend. She admitted that she completely self indulgent with this kind of stuff and sometimes it might change the way she feel ,betray her boyfriend's trust and end up hurting both of them. Instead to stop, she like to fantasy about what she like to do every night.

Studies show that people who have a higher education, income, and that girl in higher socio-economic groups are more twice likely to have been unfaithful, compared with women on low salaries. The reasons why this is happening are they have more ample time to spare time with their partner on the weekend at their favorite places. In addition, they were willing to enjoy their time with the other guys and away from their boyfriends. They are very happy to went out with somebody that could make them happy and understand the way they think of and that could be the one whom spending the laughter and joy of the day. The girl with the higher education often has their chances to be cheaters while her partner does not have the same level with her. From the opportunities that she has, she will take a deep step to seek a new guys to help them in studies or to be the emotional support instead to be spend around with their boyfriend's. Not only that , She might be need a financial support from the guys. Maybe the guys could help them to support them when out to somewhere else. Research by Dr.Joyce Hamilton Bern, a Clinical psychologist said that "when Guy cheat, it usually not an indication that they are unhappy in their marriages. Guy sometimes cheat when they see women who is attractive and appears to be interested and even tough there is nothing lacking in their relationship, they initiate affairs anyway. On the other hand, Women cheat when relationship is not fulfilling and already in trouble. They had been cheated because being neglected or partners are unfaithful".

Loneliness is one of the factors that make the girl doing the infidelity. She might cause by the unsatisfactory relationships which is their partner does not giving them the emotionally fulfilling. She feel not deserves in relationship and find attention from outside their relationship. Sometimes guys are busy with their work and not have ample time to spend with their girl. They are not lavishing much time to be together and communicate. Suppose to be the guys had to search their space time to communicate and share their truth feeling. When the guys are busy with their jobs and hobby, They will used up their all energy and get tired. In consequences, when they came to their girls they will not have any joy and smile on their face as they are tired. From that point, the girls will have a negative thinking about their partner and thought they were having girls behind their back. Lastly this problems will drag the girls to having affairs.

Revenge was one of the cause that stir the problems. A girl whom had been extremely hurt by their partner actions will seek the way to hurt them in the same way. Folksy bit of wisdom declares that "hell hath no fury like a women scorned" From probably had its origin in broken relationship resulting from guys infidelity. When women found out that their guy having another relationship, getting bored with the relationship, neglect their needs, or arrive late with the lipstick stick to their clothes, it brings out the very worst in her. Especially if she devoted or faithful girlfriends who has sacrificed money, family and time for sake of her boyfriend. Some women admit they embark upon affairs only after their boyfriends confessed or were caught in their own indiscretions. For these women revenge is the sweetest when they keep it to themselves. Researcher Dr.Berry tells of their client was so angry when she discovered that her partner was having affairs that immediately she bought an expensive diamond ring and ask for him to pay for it.

Women also lack of self esteem and they are emotionally needy and they sometime seek guys outside the relationship to confirm that they are okay, beautiful, desirable, sexy, somebody loves them for real women rather than waiting their boyfriends message or phone calls. Sometimes the guy never bring her out for a movies, hardly to talk and show little interest on her job, desires and dream.

Not only that , girls feel very low when the boys are neglected them on emotional or physical way. So the girls will bear in mind that she was not deserved to have boyfriend in her life. If the boys are very attractive and handsome and the girls cannot follow him up, she eventually believe that her boyfriends having affairs with others beautiful girls. From their instinct, they had to make a move before it will be too late for her to save her relationship. By that, they will try to look up a new spare guy to make her self esteem to constantly increase

There were a research that show that, 40% women cheat and incidence of female infidelity has doubled in last 36 years .So, it shows that even the female population increase each year, they still can involved in infidelity . The guys should be alert with the sudden changes of their partner and they have to be careful. They had to figure out how to tackle their problem and have a communication in their relationship. The guys had to become more up to date with the girls problem and should give them a time to be together.